A Few of Our Favorite Things

A Few of Our Favorite Things | October 2018

It’s that time of year when the grocery store dedicates whole aisles to fun-size candy bars and other treats for costumed revelers who will soon come knocking and ringing your doorbell. It’s a month of haunted houses, spooky night time hay rides, and that silly decoration of a witch running into a wall. It’s a month dedicated to fear, but often we only engage with the “fun” kind of fear. We at MBS believe that embracing true fear and vulnerability is not only necessary but helps us realize the depths of life and humanity. It’s “the doorway to other worlds,” according to our founder, Matthew Sanford… With that in mind, below are some recommendations from the MBS team in the realm of fear and vulnerability:

“Quicksand” by Malin Persson Giolito is a chilling read, recommended by Kathy Dahl. Kathy says it’s “a page-turning suspenseful novel about eighteen-year-old Maja Norbert who is on trial for her involvement with a mass shooting at her prep school in Stockholm’s wealthiest suburb that has left her boyfriend and best friend dead.”

If you’ve ever been to a training with Matthew, you might have heard him say “Vulnerability is a precondition of realization.” This always bakes our noodle – but you know who bakes Matthew’s noodle? Dave Matthews. So, it’s fitting that he pointed out a line in the song Grey Street: “It’d take the work out of the courage.” Watch and listen to the full song being performed at Farm Aid 2018.

Bethany Hutchinson says anything by Brene Brown is an excellent choice when considering vulnerability, especially her TED Talk, The Power of Vulnerability. Bethany also pointed to David Whyte, who of course has many brilliant things to say on the matter, like this: “Vulnerability is not a weakness, a passing indisposition, or something we can arrange to do without, vulnerability is not a choice, vulnerability is the underlying, ever present and abiding undercurrent of our natural state.” More good stuff right here. 

And, finally, Mary Pat FitzPatrick showed us this poem that was recited in the Netflix show, Godless:

‘Tis a Fearful Thing

‘Tis a fearful thing
to love what death can touch.

A fearful thing
to love, to hope, to dream, to be –

to be,
And oh, to lose.

A thing for fools, this,

And a holy thing,

a holy thing
to love.

For your life has lived in me,
your laugh once lifted me,
your word was gift to me.

To remember this brings painful joy.

‘Tis a human thing, love,
a holy thing, to love
what death has touched.”

― Judah Halevi